Safely dating someone with herpes
I walked swiftly across the house and into my mother’s room and confronted her, asking her if she had something going on with my husband. Six weeks after my pregnancy I did just that, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that there had been something more to their messages.
Then during the last week in March, my mother confided in me that she had HSV-2 (genital herpes) and had had it for 10 years.
I woke up my husband and asked him to please show me the message.
He unlocked his phone and deleted the message and said, “You’re being ridiculous.” I started losing my cool. ” My husband came in screaming, telling me to return to our bedroom because I’d lost my mind. The next afternoon, my mother suggested I see a therapist and maybe ask for an antidepressant after my pregnancy because I’m paranoid and anxious.
My mother has been living with us for the past year and a half.
My husband didn’t love the idea, but I convinced him it was only for a short time.
He’s always been a GREAT husband, father, and best friend, and he says he will spend an eternity apologizing and making it right.
How do I continue this healing process without being a woman scorned and without ruining my marriage? Get it because you have been betrayed in the most hurtful way by the two people you trusted most.
My husband and I have been together for seven years.
We have two beautiful boys, a 4-year-old and a 2-month-old, and our relationship has always been a great one.
That rage and the hurt and confusion and all the other stuff you’re feeling will eat away at you until you’re empty, and then not only will you have nothing left to give your marriage, but you’ll have nothing for your children either. Please go to therapy and deal with this ugliness bravely. And don’t make any decision about whether to stay with your husband or not until you’ve worked through the stages of grief, including getting angry at him. And the feeling of security and confidence you think you have when you’re with your husband, weeks after learning he screwed your mom while you were asleep in the other room, nine months pregnant with his baby, is false.
And that’s not something you can even begin to rebuild trust and a relationship on.